ZAPoly Discussion Topic : Valentines for the Polyamorous
Managing holidays and special days with multiple partners? Its a
classic poly scheduling issue with a heavy side order of couple-centrism and mono-normativity..
Valentines week.
Singles Awareness Day.
Metamour Day is February 28th. Metamour Day is meant to foster positive
relationships between you and your metamours, whatever that might look
like. It is not about forced compersion. It's about communal
appreciation within our family structures.
Basic guidelines:
- Ask your partners for what they want: what makes a great
Valentine’s Celebration for you? OK? Bare minimum? What does
Valentine’s Day mean to you and our relationship? Do you want to
exchange gifts?
- Say what you want. Important to be truthful. Don't say you don't
want any special recognition for VDay and then get upset when
someone takes you at your word.
- Embrace the idea of Valentine's Week Celebrations instead of just Valentines Day.
- Coordinate with your partners to make sure everyone gets
pretty close to what they want.
URLs
-- South African Polyamory http://www.polyamory.co.za
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