ZAPoly Discussion Topic : Polyamory Books

Greenfizzpop's Reviews

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
This is the book I wish I'd had when starting out. It is breathtakingly comprehensive, is based on lots of good case studies, it is inclusive of all sexual orientations unlike some other books. The exercises are invaluable for figuring out "what page you're on" with a partner.

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
2nd version of the first poly book I ever read. Very good for introducing the concept of sex positivity and an independent actor form of polyamory. In my opinion, it has an unfortunate name because that scares some people off reading it.

Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage
This is the book I gave my sibling to read to better understand how someone might come to be polyamorous.

Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up
Cunning Minx of polyweekly podcast fame has self published a short ebook. It is expensive for its length, but it is good solid advice.

Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful
The author is verbose, thinks way too highly of himself and clearly needs a good editor, but he makes you think and doesn't sugar-coat the challenges of poly, and when this book came out it was a welcome change.

The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide
While there is a lot of  good stuff in this book, it has some ethical viewpoints I find highly objectionable. If it wasn't for that I'd call it a good handbook for a male strongly hetero-normative person.

Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits : Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships
You might like this as an intro to poly if you're into new age spirituality, I'm not and it annoyed the heck out of me. The chapter on jealousy is pretty good though.


-- South African Polyamory

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