ZAPoly Discussion Topic : Privacy
Know the difference between privacy and secrecy
relationships are built on trust. Trust is built on honesty. Honesty
isn't hard and it's a good habit. Bite the bullet, tell the truth. If
your relationship can't weather it, you are in the wrong relationship;
but it probably can. Telling the truth is easier than lying, all rumor
and myth to the contrary. Lies are a lot of work. They weigh you down
and isolate you. Small lies get lonely and seek out bigger lies. Don't
ask one lover to lie or keep secrets from others. Secrets may not be
lies but they breed lies. Secrets build walls and discourage intimacy.
Know the difference between privacy and secrecy. "
"Living together as a group decreases privacy and autonomy"
much am I allowed to keep private about one relationship in another
relationship?” Answers vary all over the map, but there are usually two
main camps: the “we share absolutely everything with each other”
and the “what happens in one relationship is private unless a need to
know exists in another relationship” approaches.
-- South African Polyamory http://www.polyamory.co.za
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